If you are told to find yourself without instruction go find a mirror and slap yourself awake because that is red flag #1 when reading bad content on this subject. How do I know this to be true? Your gut already told you before I wrote a word.
Lately, the amount of spam articles and information intended for those wanting relationship advice has seemed to double. Many websites, offers, and content are filled with horrible relationship advice. This content always leads to some kind of silly series to buy, or more and more information that is low quality. Then there are many articles that pose a question such as, “How to get your ex back in 3 ways,” and by the end of the article the question isn’t answered. The three ways didn’t give direction but instead gave the reader a round about self explanatory automated sounding mess.
Would you ask a relationship advice expert to do your taxes, or teach you how to set up a car website with just knowing they were solid in the area of relationship advice expertise?
I never thought that I had a strong moral complex, but I have been in the industry six years now and I have never used BS as a tactic to gain anything. Why? Because I am good at what I do. I am not a good accountant, or ballet dancer, I am an expert at providing relationship advice. I also am not in the industry of online spam marketing, that I integrate with my expertise. I am not saying that marketing online is wrong.
Prove It! Anyone who wants to offer a way in which my expertise can be tested against another’s I would do it in a heartbeat. If there was such a crazy competition about there, I bet a lot of these experts would not do this.
Books: If you forgot what you read the next day, then that book didn’t give you any advice. Advice doesn’t have to be followed to become advice. The first step is having in your mind as an option or a tactic that enables a space in your mind. If you forget it the next day then it didn’t provide you with any advice.
If you market me at least don’t try and fake being knowledgeable about the offer you pose.
1952 – When A Girl Is A Teaser – Part 1 (Photo credit: clotho98)
Just don’t call yourself an expert, don’t give advice one on one, and make sure you have good content. If you guys are going to buy content at least buy some that doesn’t either sound automated or like someone was intoxicated while they wrote it. Grammar or spelling errors are far better than an article where there is a posed question and no answer. I never leave without the answer. I am not little miss perfect (actually I am the polar opposite I am just saying that it makes me confused and angry when people who really want some insight only see cheesy ads where people are playing in the park and some women is offering a six CD workshop on how to date yourself first or something else ridiculous.
How to know if this is probably a bad buy: If it is similar or closely based on this principle or words filled with, “find myself in the backyard of my 2nd soul,” type of programs.
If the person offering the product or service has more than two articles that pose a question in the title but never answer the question. Example: “How to get over a guy step by step.” – What are the steps? Make sure if they step says Example: “Step One: Focus On You. Well, do they tell you what they mean when they say to focus on yourself? And say focusing on yourself meant doing something unpleasant? How would that reap a benefit?
Even Oprah Makes Mistakes.
If this person has been on the Oprah Winfery show, and you still smell bull shift then don’t do it. Oprah has stated many times that she is not perfect, and has made many mistakes and had people on her show throughout the years that she might not now. This is my opinion. I happen to like Oprah, and while her fiction book suggestions are 20 for 20 with me, I have run into some relationship advice experts who were on Oprah or claimed they were on the show in some capacity. You know what I thought silently, “Even Oprah Makes Mistakes.”
How to do something about it – or at least not let someone else waste five minutes.
Comment on the ridiculous. Rating is all good but even a polite question like, “I am confused? Where is the part about cheating? Thank you.” IS FINE. They are not likely to answer or if they do will likely speak in psychology/thesaurus like language where the goal is to make you feel stupid. I have the education in psychology and you would be surprised all the made up term we never used in school. Also, giving relationship advice was my gig way before the degree, and my foundation has not wavered even though I learned a lot. It just didn’t apply as an execution but it did as an understanding.
Please leave a comment if you know anyone who was scammed by a dating or relationship coach or expert, or found articles or information that had such low quality that it angered you.
Lastly, DON’T CALL IT A SCAM unless you know for sure. SPAM and SCAM are very different, and calling something (even if it is worthless) a SCAM when it is not, isn’t even fair to the twiddle Dees and twiddle dumbs whom are writing this shitty content.
Spam – Unsolicited commercial email, often sent in bulk quantities.Spammer – Someone who sends unsolicited commercial email, often in bulk quantities.
Important Sources and Closely Related Content Of My Choice.
First if you think you have been scammed please contact Consumer Fraud Reporting to report this incident or request information about what you might consider a scam but are unsure.
- Multilevel Marketing Plans [PDF] – Explains how MLM plans and illegal pyramiding works. Offers tips to help you decide whether to join a MLM plan. 8.5″x11″, 2 pages.
- Seminar Pitch: A Real Curve Ball [PDF] – Warns consumers about solicitations and infomercials promoting seminars and conferences that promise to help consumers make a lot of money. Tips to avoid getting hit by the seminar pitch. 8.5″x11″, 4 pages.
Here is another source from one of my favorite online business blogs: Real Way’s To Make Money Online: where the author of this blog explains in detail her take on scams:
The Definition of “Scam”
by Anna on October 7, 2012
I see various work at home opportunities get labeled as “scams” quite often when this is not the case at all. It happens not only in the comments here on this site sometimes, but on forums I visit as well.
The bottom line is this — simply having a bad experience with a company does not mean they’re a scam and in fact calling out a company as such is very serious so be careful when you say that, especially when you aren’t 100 percent sure you’re right.
So what exactly is a a scam? Well, it’s safe to say that a company is a scam when they’ve tried to take your money or steal your personal information to use for their own purposes. For example, these fake envelope stuffing jobs are basically all scams. You pay for information with promises of making tons of money only to find out that in order to make the money you’ve got to scam others into believing what you did so they’ll pay too. I have a lot of examples of work at home scams listed here.
But is a company a scam because they unfairly fired you? No. Is it a scam because you don’t like the way they run things? No. Is it a scam because they have a poorly designed website? No. Is it a scam because you worked and then didn’t get paid? Not always — if this happens to you, definitely contact the company before publicly declaring them a scam to see if it can be straightened out in case it was a mistake. If it appears they aren’t paying other people either, then you should be worried.
If you truly think something I have listed is a scam, please please email me so I can check it out before making a public statement that could be very damaging to the reputation of that company. I do read every single email I get so I can assure you it won’t be ignored! I only want legitimate things listed here so I will definitely take your emails seriously.
The Definition of “Scam”
by Anna on October 7, 2012 · Quoted text italicized above was written by the owner of, “Real Ways To Earn Money Online. If you want to read the rest of this article or get the link to email the writer then CLICK HERE.
Consumer Fraud Reporting Website: consumerfraudreporting.org where you find free materials about scam’s and specific types of online scam’s. LINK: Direct Link For Information On Scam’s, Spam and how to identify each, plus instructions to report an incident: Consumer Fraud Reporting DOT ORG
OPRAH.com Resources of Applicable Material; Along With My Favorite Links:For great articles and book suggestions please visit oprah.com/relationships , oprah.com/book-list/Oprahs-Book-Club-The-Complete-List