Cheating: Why Blame the Other Woman?
Being cheated on can be very painful. The victim who is cheated on usually has a high level anger mixed with confusion about what just happened. Instead of dealing with those issues productively, some woman just decide it’s much easier to blame the other woman. Releasing anger from being hurt is healthy, but not when your projecting that anger in the wrong direction. Blaming the other woman for your partners infidelity is just as ridiculous as blaming the mail man. The other woman is just another female in the world. She isn’t any more special than you or your neighbor. This woman just happened to be at the right place at the right time. If she would have not showed up or met your man than the “other woman,” might be someone else with the same label. Also, it is true that if these women know that he is involved or married they morally might be lacking in constructive decision making. Is it fair to say she broke up your family? NO. Its ok the to think it but HE broke up your family. Even mentioning her role having an impact is not fully embracing the truth about what your man did. Blaming the other woman only gives her more limelight in a situation she is not significant enough to be acknowledged in. When examining the demise of your relationship caused by infidelity, the other woman simply isn’t important enough to include.
Why the other woman owes you nothing.
Your boyfriend or husband decided to cheat on you. He was the man who promised you he would never hurt you. He is the one who said he loves you. He is the one that made you feel safe and took on that role. He is the one who made you believe he would take care of your heart, and he is the one who took that trust away. He told you he loved you, and wanted to protect you. He told you that he could be trusted. Ultimately, he is the person who deceived you. The other woman didn’t break your heart. The other woman did not swear she would stay away from your partner. Most of all, you are not in love with the other woman. Your in love with the man who chose to risk losing you.
Home-wreckers Do Not Exist .
Everyone has heard phrases similar to, “she stole my man,” or “she is a home-wrecker.” Not only are those phrases ridiculous but they breathe denial from every angle. When you love someone and care for them deeply, there is no way someone else could hypnotize you into damaging your solid bond. Some woman who have been cheated on act as though the other woman cast a spell on their partner . These woman don’t exude some sexual prowess we don’t have or are incapable of reenacting. If a man wants to cheat, he will cheat. The woman that he happened to cheat with is all situational. She wasn’t the person who opened up the possibility of cheating to your partner; she just happened to be there. If the coined term, “home-wrecker,” sticks around in society it should have a new meaning applied to it. The person who wrecked your home, sense of security, emotional well being and happiness was the person who decided to cheat.
What if the Other Woman Knew He Was In a Relationship?
First of all, there is one thing a man who cheats on you has in common with the woman he decides to cheat on you with: they are both officially branded as liars. When it comes to the subject of his infidelity, you can never truly believe in the details coming from the mouths of either one of these too. Your man is trying to not lose you, and no one really knows this other woman’s intentions which makes their input worthless. Some women feel justified in blaming the other woman if they find out she was fully aware that he was taken. If the other woman knows she is getting involved with someone who is married or committed that makes her slime. Even so, that still has nothing to do with you or the fact that your partner cheated. What’s worse is that your partner was not only involved with another woman, but the type of person who would engage in this behavior while fully aware of his commitment to you. Some people would argue that the only way to stop men from cheating, is for women to turn them down. Obviously, that idea could never be fully executed because some women have no idea the man they are with is involved with someone else. Overall, the fact that the other woman has full knowledge of your partners relationship with you still has nothing to do the situation at hand. Women as a whole should stop trying to find ways to keep their man from cheating, and focus on permanently removing behavior that demeans females. Blaming the other woman is foolish, and derails achieving gender equality.