Don’t Work For Love: Know What You Really Want First.
Women often find themselves having to work harder than they need to in relationships. When you first meet someone you need to truly get to know them before falling in love. Knowing what each person in the relationship feels is appropriate behavior. Knowing fully what this person wants will save a lot of unnecessary damage control executed by you later. Before you find yourself working for love, always know what and who you’re working with.
What relationship guidelines do you follow?
Before you accept someone for who they are, you need to make sure they accept you for who you truly are. Often couples find out later that their partner behaves in completely different way in some situations. Before you find yourself blindsided and having to deal with the fact get the facts! Women need to understand who the person they are accepting is and what he brings with him. For instance, what do you consider cheating? Some women don’t consider a night out with the boys at the local strip club cheating. If you don’t have a problem with your man going to strip clubs but if he flirted with someone your would hit the roof that is your precognitive. There is only something wrong if you don’t find that acceptable behavior and he never knew you had a problem with it. What people consider cheating is one of many avenues woman should explore about themselves and what fits their own personal set of guidelines. Making a list of things you won’t tolerate in a relationship may seem controlling, but it’s far from it. Men and women all have their own personal set of wants and needs. Before jumping into a relationship, each person should explain what they need in the relationship in order to be happy. Remember to be cautious and careful with the information that is given to you. Don’t feel pushy or too invasive! This isn’t ordering a meal with 15 instructions! This is your life. Below are some questions to ask referring to your guidelines. To better explain I will pretend to be Susie. Susie is dating Jack.
Susie Needs to find out from Jack.
How do you feel about animals? Are you allergic to a certain animal? What do you consider cheating? Have you cheated in the past? What are your plans for the future? Have you been married before? Are you married? Are you separated? Do you have kids? What is a healthy sex life to you? Do you get on Facebook a lot?
Working For Love Is Not What You Want.
After you’re in the relationship it’s too late to structure, mold or change the person you’re with. Your partner feels you have already accepted him the way he is, and doesn’t feel the need to change anything. Working for love while you’re already in a relationship is working towards a dead end. Before you know your partners fondest child hood memories, favorite foods, funny habits, and favorite bands you should know about how they want to live their life.